Better A Cruel Truth Than A Comfortable Delusion?

I have known her since the springtime of her life. She is someone who has always taken pride in being a woman. She has always dreamt of having a beautiful wedding and having someone in her life that completes her.  But today for the first time it makes her think, had this been such an issue if she had been a guy? Had her career taken a back seat and put on stake just because according to the social norms she would not find a suitable match after 30! She has not even completed her 26 by the way. Would anyone marry a guy without a job? NO. Would any family give their daughter to a man with no earning? NO. Then why is it any different for her? Just because her biological clock is ticking at the top of her head! Or just because the responsibilities are due! 

For all those girls out there who do not want to be working and justify it saying they chose for it, how she wishes guys could do the same. Probably then people would understand how important it is for an "individual" to stand on their own two feet first irrespective of their gender. Probably then it would become inevitable to have a source of living for yourself as a first priority. Not that its any wrong to be not productive, but just so that you can fulfill your needs and of those around you and God forbid if you go through circumstances where you have to survive alone you will be self-sufficient.

She belongs to an upper-middle-class family of well-educated, loving and progressive people. They have always made sure to give their kids the best of everything they can. But as per the middle-class tradition, love marriage has never been highly spoken of. The progress here, she fails to see but accepts it. Parents know it better they say. They want a guy of the same caste, religion. The progress here, she fails to see but accepts it. They want a guy with a handsome salary while the girl is still trying to convince her parents to give her a little time(not even a year) at least until she gets into another job which she is confident of and become capable of giving a fair enough contribution in her married life. The progress here, she fails to see and is struggling to accept. 

They say it all gets managed at the end of the day even if you begin to see someone we choose for you or even if you get married. You will have immense support from your partner. Agreed. But who does manages it? Who goes through a hell of a change socially, physically, mentally, biologically? She doesn't say that a guy goes through any less, but it is the girl who has to build the house and there is no debate about it. Because the society would never accept a house husband which makes her sad, as there are men in so many numbers who would love to take the house responsibility, but they do not have the option to do it. And amidst all this, it will be still expected out of her to be able to focus on her career. Which she will eventually because women are born with multitasking abilities. But is it not correct to begin with an equal ground? So that she knows she will be able to contribute enough to lessen the burden on her partner and feel she is not a piece of baggage that has just been sent from one house and accepted by another.

She doesn't wish to light a flame and march in order to change how society functions. She doesn't deny to get married either. All she asks for is a little time. A little thought beyond what is being followed and the "it is how it is" attitude. And you can begin to bring a change starting from nowhere else but your own house. But it seems it is a long way for her. She has always conveyed what she has felt rather than keeping people in dark. She has tried enough to make her family understand that a little wait will do no harm. But it hurts them to know that she thinks differently. It hurts them to think about whether they will be able to accomplish their responsibility as they are growing old with time. 

And now it makes her feel guilty of hurting them. It makes her feel guilty of asking for a little time from her own life to the extent that she now doubts her intention of wanting to achieve. She has always been there for people in their hard times but today she finds no one standing with her when she needs the most. But I am going to be there with her through thick and thin.

The World is changing... Is it ???